I have been thinking about this for a bit and wanted to put it out there as I believe sometimes people just need to hear certain things.
Often times in violent relationships the victim accepts or absorbs the blame for the abusers actions. You will even have instances where other people connected to the victim feel so bad about the situation they blame themselves. I am hear to tell you that no one but the abuser is responsible for their actions. We all do things everyday that we are responsible for to avoid any negative consequences. Think about some of the things you do or don't do to avoid a consequence you may not like. It's all about making the right choice.
We all know or have been told in one way or another it is not right to be mean to anyone. Anger is a human emotion, usually a secondary emotion. Therefore, it is something we are all going to experience now and then. It is how we act while angry that makes the difference. Overall, it is NOT appropriate for anyone to take their anger out on anyone. This includes saying mean nasty things to the people around you, yelling at people, throwing things at people, and being physically aggressive toward others just to name a few examples.
Could you imagine what it would be like if people were not mean to other people? How constructive and nice that would be.
You all Take Care -- Be Safe -- P.E.A.C.E.